Essay on dating in the 21st century
Some people look back fondly on dating, generations ago, with romantic ideas of greater morality and better values.
Others think that with all of the online apps and matchmaking websites we have today, it's never been easier to play the field.
I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life.
I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.
At that time, there was no such thing as just two young lovers "going out on a date." However, this began to change in the early years of the 20th century, when couples began to go out together in public and unsupervised.
Still, the ultimate and very apparent goal was still that of marriage.
I read dozens of studies about love, how people connect and why they do or don’t stay together.
Century”: “We inhabit a world in which every aspect of romance from meeting to mating has been streamlined, safety-checked, and emptied of spiritual consequence.